I have a friend who is addicted to making lists. It doesn’t matter if he needs to decide something about a new job, about his relationships or about the color of his new kitchen – he takes out the pencil and starts writing. It’s always pros and cons, simple math, no emotion.
This one time we were sitting in a café and he was passionately writing a list, when an old man came and said to him: “Life is no paper, it’s no pen. Stop writing, start feeling”.
And it stroked us that he actually had a valid point.
Soren Kierkegaard, a Danish philosopher once said: “Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.” It can be an amazing reality or a nightmare because after all life is 10% of what happens and 90% of what you think of it.
All of us have often experienced anxiety, sadness, the feeling of being lost in our search of a purpose. In these moments the universe sends us someone or something to help us, to give us some advice or to simply show us the way.
But we at Global Expert Space strongly believe that happiness and knowledge should be spread, and we want to make you (yes, exactly you) smile. So here are 20 pieces of advice which we believe can be life changing:
#1: The problem is you think you have time
Sadly, you don’t. Every moment we have is a gift. So make a list of all those things you have been postponing and start doing them. Time will pass anyway. Why don’t you make it unforgettable?
#2: Stop worrying about other people’s opinions
Letting other people’s opinion influence your life is one of the worst things you can do. The only person you need to believe, you need to please and you need to listen, is yourself. Nothing else really matters in YOUR life.
#3: Stop comparing yourself
So you see a happy couple while being single and you immediately think “Why doesn’t this happen to me?” Facebook constantly shows you who started a new job, finished some amazing college, got promoted, got married….this list is endless.Learn to be happy about what other people are or what they have, and remember that the only important thing is to be happy.
Learn to be happy about what other people are or what they have, and remember that the only important thing is to be happy. It is not you against the world. This is not a competition. It is you working and winning with you. There is no one else you need to prove yourself to.
#4: Learn to ask the right questions
Knowledge is power. You can always learn something new and everyone around you has a story to share that might turn out valuable, show you another perspective and help you sometime in the future. Everyone. All you have to do is ask!
#5: Share your feelings
Share your feelings – if you are hurt, if you are sad, if you are happy and if you are in love.
We are often too scared to say: “Hey, I love you. I want you in my life.” We are often willing to let something go… to avoid an argument, but such things can stick in our hearts and minds, and they change us forever. Life is too short to let fear dictate your actions. Let it go and share.
#6: Be honest
Being honest to yourself and to others will calm your mind and bring peace to your heart. Do not make reality more likable by lying. Instead, try seeing the beauty in every moment and show it to other people. Nothing in life, that is based on lies, lasts.
#7: Say “Yes!” more often
Saying “yes” more often means trying new things, experimenting, taking chances. This will give you the chance to grow, to get to know yourself, to find new things you enjoy. Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.
#8: Meet as many people as you can
Because other people are our greatest teachers. The world is a really small place; you never know where you will find a new friend. Meeting people will make you open for other perspective and will most definitely lead to many new opportunities.
#9: Make others happy
Sciences prove that making other people happy will bring you fulfillment. There is a thing called RAK – random act of kindness. Don’t underestimate the power of one kind word, a compliment or simple help. Do small miracles every day, because how you make other people feel, says a lot of about you. You do want to be happy, right?
#10: Invest in yourself
Life is not about what you have, it’s about who you are. You are the biggest project you will ever work on. Don’t ever stop learning.
Learn a new language, create content, read new books, acquire new skills – whatever makes you happy, as long as it helps you grow. Life is a journey – not growing, means failing.
#11: Find a challenge you love
The feeling of accomplishment can be breathtaking. Find something that not only makes you happy but challenges you to do more, to learn. Try a little harder to be a little better.
#12: Have your own time
From the moment we are born till the day we die, there is one relationship we need to build constantly – it is the one with ourselves. Become your own best friend – go to the movies, have coffee alone, walk in the park, travel and go on adventures.
We know the thought of loneliness is scary, but remember there is a difference between being alone and being lonely. You are your own temple.
#13: Love your mistakes
Your mistakes made you who you are and showed you what you don’t want. Making mistakes is inevitable, we are only humans. Love your mistakes for all these things, because beauty can often be found in imperfections.
#14: Devote yourself to your talents
Some of us are born to be writers, others musicians, some find passion in business. Close your eyes and think of the one thing that makes you feel alive, that fills your heart with happiness, that blocks all your negative feelings and brings your peace. Commit to it. Become better, become an expert. Devote your time to it.
If you don’t follow your heart and you don’t make your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.
#15: Embrace change
Change is the “monster under my bed” for grownups. The word seeds fear in our hearts and we strive to avoid change at any price. Why? Because people like comfort. We do – we like everything we are used to because it gives us a certain sense of control.
But everything changes. As soon as you embrace change in your life, you will begin to see more clearly that the Universe is sending you everything for a reason. Learn the lesson. Change for better.
#16: Appreciate what you have
Some day you’ll miss today. They say there are two days you cannot change – yesterday and tomorrow. So there is no point of living in the past or the future, you have today. If you are awake, alive, if you can walk and kiss your loved one – you are a happy person.
My grandmother is 96 years old and every single time someone asks her how is she doing, she answers: “I have never been better, thank you!” And she really is, because she accepts everything in her life as a gift. Don’t wait till you are 96 to understand this.
#17: You are closer than you think
We know you are tired. We know it’s sometimes hard for you, we know life can be overwhelming. But remember that whatever you are fighting for, you are closer than you think.
If you give up now, all this time and hard work would be wasted. Take another step, breath in and never, ever give up.
#18: More is less
You cannot be everything for everyone. You have your strengths and your weaknesses. Focus on the strengths.
You don’t need many friends; you need few, but true ones. You don’t need a huge house or the most expensive car – you need a house to turn into a home and the car that will take you to places you dream to visit. Focus on having the right things, not on having many things.
Quality beats quantity every time.
#19: Enjoy the journey
So often we focus on the finish line that we forget to enjoy the journey. Everyone is handed adversity in life. No one’s journey is easy. It’s how we handle it what makes us unique.
#20: Love yourself
Loving yourself is the greatest revolution. Once you start loving yourself unconditionally, the world changes.
Only by being able to be kind to your inner self, to be understanding and compassionate, you can truly give love to others. Hear your own voice, listen to your own heart.
You are beautiful, unique and you deserve to be loved. If you don’t start believing this today, it will take so much longer for someone else to believe it.
“Not how long, but how well you have lived is the main thing.”
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